Welcome to the new challenge on the block created by Han, from Safe Haven; Chronicles of a Creative Mess. ‘Confessions of a Blogger’ is a way for bloggers to talk about things that they don’t usually talk about, and for you to learn about your favourite bloggers on a more personal and deeper level. The blogger challenge consists of over 70 questions, in 6 different categories. I will not be answering all 70 questions, but I will try to answer as many as possible, and as truthfully as possible. Enjoy!
> Include the introduction above (feel free to add your own along with it)
> Thank the person who nominated you.
> List the rules.
> Answer as many of the questions as you can, and as honestly as you can.
> Nominate other bloggers to take on the challenge.
Confessions of a Blogger Challenge
1. Do you have any nicknames?
With a last name like Yule, you can imagine the kind of nicknames I had at school. I was called YuleLog for a while which everyone found hilarious. Yuley was also a hit for the other kids (and also one of my teachers).
2. Have you ever cried from watching a TV show or a movie?
I’m going to lose some serious man points with this answer. The first movie I remember crying over was the Lion King when I was little. How can you not tear up when Mufasa dies?
3. What would you do with one hundred million pound?
The usual cliche things like paying off the mortgage, buying a new car, saving some away for the children. Being an adult is no fun when you are just working to pay the bills. I’d probably splash out on a few holidays too.
4. If you could have someone else’s life for one day, who would it be and why?
This answer is a little outside the box, but I would love to spend a day in the life of my son Austin. Just to see life from his perspective. He is only one, so I imagine most of the day would be spent pooping and picking my nose but it might help me to understand his feelings better and what makes him tick.
5. How many romantic partners do you think you will end up having between now and the end of your life?
I’m hoping that I’ve found my partner for life now. Amy and I are getting married next year, so I have no intentions of finding a new romantic partner in the future. I was always terrible at the dating scene anyway. Glad that I’m out of there.
6. What kind of parent are you, or think you will be?
I feel like I am a good parent. The love that I have for my son is unconditional, and to me he is a blessing. I’m far from perfect though. There are still days that I feel that I have no idea what I’m doing, which is completely natural. Parenting is a learning experience that never ends. I’m tough when I need to be, however Austin has everything that he wants.
7. What is something you’ve never told anyone?
It’s something that I haven’t told anyone, but something that may be apparent from my personality. I’ve struggled with self confidence from an early age. One of the reasons that I come across as shy and quiet. Meeting new people is extremely stressful and believing in myself has always come hard for me.
8. What do you do when you are alone and no one is watching you?
When I’m alone is one of the only times where I can really be myself. When I’m by myself, I’m usually writing on my blog or scrolling through social media. I have been known to sing and do a little ‘Dad dancing’ when nobody is around. That behaviour is strictly for behind closed doors. Nobody needs to suffer through that.
9. Are you living a meaningful life?
Since becoming a father, I feel like my life has taken on more meaning. Before that, I lived life for myself, whereas now I live for Austin. My career in childcare brings plenty of meaning. Every day I am helping to shape the young minds of tomorrow. It doesn’t get any more meaningful than that.
10. What are three things you can’t live without?
My family. My phone. SLEEP!
11. What or who inspires you the most?
Not a lot inspires me apart from myself. If I don’t feel inspired then my motivation will be low. I always need to inspire myself to get up and go to do something. In terms of the blogging world, the really successful bloggers are what I would love to be like. Writing for a living is my dream job, however I have to be realistic to what I am capable of achieving.
12. What makes you feel most empowered?
I feel most empowered when I have a goal to aim for. It’s really important to set yourself targets to motivate you and have something to work towards.
13. Do you live to work or work to live?
A lot of the time it does feel like I’m working to live. For four days a week my life is work and sleep.
14. Do you trust anyone with your life?
I am a very trusting person, which can be both a good and bad thing. I would say there are plenty of people that I would trust with my life. Maybe even people that I really shouldn’t put so much trust in, but that’s just me. I always try to see the best in people.
15. Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
Definitely an introvert. No question about it.
16. How would your perfect partner treat you?
Hold on, let me just describe the girl sitting opposite me. My fiancee Amy treats me exactly the way that any guy would want. She would do anything to make me happy, which she does. I’m a very lucky man. We work together as a team, completely equal, which you probably don’t get with most relationships.
17. How do you relax and recharge?
I don’t often get much time to relax, but when I do, I’ll usually spend it writing or just having down time to switch off my brain for a while.
18. What is something you’d like to do or achieve before you die?
It’s a simple ambition, but I would really just like to excel at something and be successful. That could either be my career, or a hobby like my blogging.
19. What offends you?
Selfish people who are only out for themselves. My opinion is that we are on this earth to make each other happy. To be with other people. To help each other. Selfish people will always end up sad and alone in the end.
20. Have you ever been a smoker?
I’m very proud to admit that I have never even tried a cigarette.
21. What kind of drunk are you?
I come out of my shell a lot when I’ve had a few drinks. I seem to find confidence that I never knew I had.
22. What are your biggest pet peeves?
Rudeness and bad personal hygiene. It’s not hard to have a wash people!
23. What is something you hate about yourself?
I’ve always been body conscious since an early age. Not your usual stereotype for a male. I struggle to gain weight which makes me look like a twig that you could snap in half. As I have got older though, I have learnt to love the body I was given. It will just play on your mind forever otherwise.
24. What do you love about yourself?
What I love about myself is my passion for helping other people. I often put other people before myself and have often made decisions in my life that have benefited others.
25. What are your biggest insecurities?
There is always doubt in my mind about whether I’m doing everything right. That could be either parenting or my career choices. Life is just a huge guessing game and sometimes you just need reassurance that you are doing everything right.
26. In another life, what would you want to be?
In another life I would love to be a successful musician. This life has not been kind to me in the musical department.
27. Could you live without the internet?
It’s sad that my answer here is no. Technology will take over the world one day I’m convinced. The internet plays such a huge part of our lives now. My hobbies are based around the internet and it’s something that is just ingrained into my daily routine.
28. Do you have any tattoo’s or piercings? What do you have?
I don’t have any tattoos or piercings. Piercings definitely aren’t my thing. I have contemplated getting a few small tattoos. Although they will have very strong meanings to me. I don’t think I would get one for the sake of it.
29. Do you wish you could change your past?
There are certain things that I wish I could have done differently. Having said that, I do believe that life is a learning experience and where I am in life now is a result of all the experiences I’ve had in my past. Everything happens for a reason.
30. What is your guilty pleasure?
I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve been through phases of watching all of the reality TV shows. I binged watched Geordie Shore from start to finish. I am a regular of watching Love Island too. What is wrong with me??
31. What are you afraid of?
I have the usual fears that most people have like spiders. One fear I have that may shock most is a fear of butterflies. Walking through them butterfly houses is my idea of hell. I’m such a wuss.
32. If you could change anything about your life, what would it be?
I would bring back my Dad, who I lost in 2017 to cancer. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about him. That’s one thing I would change in a heartbeat.
33. Would you consider yourself happy?
In general I would say that I am happy. Could I be happier though? I think everyone would say the same thing, yes!
34. Tell us about your first kiss:
I honestly can’t remember my first kiss, so I’m guessing it wasn’t worth remembering. Knowing me, it would have been embarrassing and awkward.
35. Tell us about your first time:
Again, embarrassing and awkward, sensing a theme? It was my first proper relationship. It was the first time for both of us. I don’t even know if everything was in the right place. There is a high chance that my first time can’t even be classed as my first time. That’s how successful it was.
36. Tell us about your first crush:
My first crush was in primary school. The typical case of admiring someone from a distance and never actually talking to them. Things didn’t change much as I got older.
37. Tell us about your first celebrity crush:
Rachel Stevens from S Club 7.
38. Tell us about your first date:
Much like my first kiss, I cannot remember it. I must have erased these traumatic experiences from my brain.
39. Tell us about your first relationship:
My first relationship was midway through high school. It was one of them relationships where you call yourself gf/bf, but don’t actually do anything but stand around looking awkward, barely talking to each other. I was romantically challenged at that age, and had no clue what I was supposed to do. It makes me cringe just thinking about it.
40. Your last relationship: good or bad?
Most of my relationships have been good for the most part. Clearly something was missing for them to not work out. It’s a massive weight lifted knowing that I’ve now found the right one and hopefully I will never have to go on another awkward first date ever again.
41. The last time you cried?
I don’t really cry that often. I couldn’t tell you the last time it happened. Rather than cry, I tend to bottle my emotions up, which isn’t always a good thing.
42. The last blog you read?
I struggle to find the time to read other people’s blogs. It’s something that I want to change when I get more time. There are so many amazing blogs out there that are all writing about similar experiences to me. Definitely a goal of mine to connect with more bloggers.
HAVE YOU EVER?
43. Have you ever gotten back with an ex?
Many, many times. Each time it happens it seems like a good idea. It always ends up being the worst idea ever. If you split up with someone, it’s usually for a good reason.
44. Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes I have and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. Although, it did make me stronger and in time I made the decision that no girl would ever treat me that way again.
45. Have you ever met someone who changed you?
A few people I’ve met have changed me massively, both in positive and negative ways. Since meeting Amy though, she has helped me to grow up and realise what I wanted in life.
46. Have you ever kissed someone you wish you hadn’t?
Plenty of times. Who hasn’t? It’s part of life. You make terrible choices. How else are you going to learn?
47. Have you ever had your heart broken?
I have and it’s not a nice feeling. At the time you feel like you can’t come back from it, but then it passes and you heal.
48. Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
Unfortunately yes. Although sometimes you need to break a heart to make things better for both of you in the long term.
49. Have you ever kissed someone on the first date?
I kissed Amy on our first date. She had no idea it was coming either. I don’t know where I found the confidence from but it just felt right and I went for it.
BELIEFS AND OPINIONS
50. Do you believe in God?
I don’t know if I believe in God or not. The whole idea of religion is a strange one. I get that people find comfort in religion, and praying is a safety blanket for them. My argument is though, why is there so much injustice in the world? Why do we have so many diseases and poverty? If there was a God, why are we not all treated equally? Why should innocent, decent people suffer whilst other’s are blessed with the world? I would like to think that there is something else for us after death, however I’m not convinced by it all.
51. Do you believe in yourself?
Most of the time I do, however there are days when I doubt myself. I think everyone has these moments at some point.
52. Do you believe in ghosts?
Similarly to religion, I’m not convinced. If there are ghosts, then why can only certain people see them? Who decides which people come back as ghosts after they die? I’m very skeptical about the afterlife.
53. Do you believe in aliens?
I believe that there must be other life forms out there. We can’t be the only ones. However I don’t think that there is anything quite like our planet out there.
54. Do you believe in fate?
Everything happens for a reason in my opinion.
55. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Love at first sight doesn’t exist. You cannot fall in love with someone based on the fact you find them attractive. You fall in love with a person’s soul. There is no way you can fall for someone just by looking at them.
56. Do you believe in true love?
I believe that there is somebody out there for everyone.
57. Do you believe in gender equality?
Yes I do. What I don’t believe in, is when some ‘feminists’ demand that women should take over the world and crush every man in sight. That, my dear, is not gender equality. That is the very behaviour that feminists are trying to tackle.
58. Do you believe in heaven/that there is peace after life?
It’s comforting to think that there is something there for us all after we pass away. Otherwise, what is the point in life at all?
59. What makes you angry about your country?
The Government. The way that tax is spent. The fact that politicians give themselves a pay rise for no good reason whilst schools and hospitals are going under because of a lack of funds. Also, the weather is pretty crap isn’t it?
60. What is your opinion on haters/trolls?
I haven’t really experienced trolls as of yet. However, my opinion is that they are typically sad, lonely, jobless people who sit in their underpants all day with nothing better to do than cause pain to others. Their opinions shouldn’t even be listened to.
61. What are some challenges you think the next generation will have to face?
I dread to think what the next generation will have to overcome. The enhancements in technology don’t appear to be slowing down, and so I think future generations will find it harder and harder to communicate as humans. Technology will eventually take over and we will forget how to talk to each other.
62. What type of blogger are you in 3 words?
Honest. Relatable. Personal.
63. What do you love about the blogging world/community?
The best part about being in the blogging community is that you connect with so many amazing people that are going through exactly the same life experiences. You talk to people that you would never usually cross paths with. Blogging gives me a sense of release for my feelings, which I usually find quite difficult in everyday situations. It’s like having an online diary that I can look back on in years to come.
64. What do you hate about the blogging world/community?
There is very little about the blogging world that I hate so far. I dislike the fact that I don’t have enough time to blog as much as I want. Taking blogging seriously requires a lot of time and dedication that I simply don’t have right now.
65. What challenges and negativity do bloggers face?
My biggest challenge as a blogger is not knowing how to develop my blog to the next level. How to reach more people and having the time to connect more with my social media followers. I think bloggers have the risk of feeling disheartened when the numbers aren’t coming in. I’ve experienced this myself. It makes you want to give up.
I’ve really enjoyed taking part in this blogging challenge, even if it has been a long one! Thanks again to Han for tagging me in this blogging challenge.
I would like to nominate these amazing people to have a go next: